Carefully determine what pleases the Lord. Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them. It is shameful even to talk about the things that ungodly people do in secret. But their evil intentions will be exposed when the light shines on them, for the light makes everything visible. This is why it is said, “Awake, O sleeper, rise up from the dead, and Christ will give you light.”
Dear God, I was at a meeting with several pastors yesterday. One of them got to talking about how, about every four or five years, his denomination will have someone come in and talk to their annual conference about sexual issues in the workforce. He said the first year they did it they had a lawyer come in and it was awful. His instructions were, “Don’t look at porn on your church computer. Don’t flirt with the church secretary…” They never had him back. He said that, since then, they have used a therapist to do it, and he gave a description of this year’s message. It can be summed up with this: “I’ve never known anyone who was really following through on self-care who ended up in an affair.” Self care was defined as actively paying attention to all parts of your life—mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual.
Of course, that’s not always true. There are addictions that sometimes just grab us, but again, if there is self care to be done in my life then the addictions need to be addressed as part of that self care.
I know a woman who is afraid of a friend in her life whom she fears is dangerous. She is gathering this information from the things he writes and shares. She has also referenced the types of shows he watches. Some of his stuff was recently brought to light and some authorities have challenged him on them. I don’t think he faces immediate legal problems, but I am hopeful that now that some of his private thoughts are out in the open it might be an opening for healing for him.
Father, help me to be willing to shine your light on the dark areas of my life so that I might be in complete communion with you. And I’ll add this man to my prayers. Please use this situation to help him heal and use it in this woman’s life to address any lingering secrets she has. She is the victim here, but I am hopeful that you will make this pain count for her and help her to be more whole from wounds of the past, decisions in the present, and plans for the future.
In Jesus’ name I pray,