O my son, give me your heart. May your eyes take delight in following my ways. A prostitute is a dangerous trap; a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well. She hides and waits like a robber, eager to make more men unfaithful.
Dear God, I have to say that when I read this I thought, “I’m sorry, Solomon, but what?!?” This is interesting advice from a man who ultimately had hundreds of wives and concubines. What exactly did “faithful” mean to him?
Setting his hypocrisy aside, I have two thoughts about this. First, of course faithfulness in a marriage is of the utmost importance. Second, a more “woke” version way of looking at this is to wonder why the promiscuous woman is singled out as a temptation and not the promiscuous man. It’s a version of sexism we are only recently waking up to. Men behave badly, betray their wives, etc. and the woman is blamed for being the temptress. Yes, she shares in the blame. I’ve known women who knowingly had affairs with married men, and the women have some culpability. But it’s the man’s choice. For me, I choose if I let it start by allowing myself to see media that arouses sexual or non-sexual discontent in my marriage. Then if I start to entertain those thoughts the path can lead to some level of unfaithfulness to my wife. So Solomon is not wrong in his advice. He is just not complete in it. That prostitute to whom he refers has a story that led her down that road. In modern times, that porn star or even the woman willing to be promiscuous and make poor decisions usually has some damage from her past. She’s a person and not just a thing.
Father, help me to keep myself pure. Help me to guard against…well, to put it like Jesus put it, lead me not into temptation, but deliver me from evil.
In Jesus’s name I pray,